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Dear Abby,

I'm writing to you with a growing concern about my husband's smoking habit. He's always been considerate enough to smoke outdoors, away from our home and car, which I appreciate. However, the lingering smell of smoke on his hands and clothes, even hours after he's finished, is impacting my health and causing me significant worry.

I'm not trying to nag, but I'm genuinely concerned about the long-term effects of secondhand smoke exposure. I've been experiencing increased respiratory issues and a general feeling of unwellness, which I believe is linked to his smoking. I'm at my wit's end trying to figure out how to address this situation without causing a major argument.

He insists he's being careful and doesn’t understand my distress. I've tried explaining how the smell permeates everything, and how even being near him after he's smoked leaves me feeling uncomfortable. He acknowledges my concerns but doesn't seem to grasp the severity of the issue.

I'm not asking him to quit entirely (though that would be ideal!), but I need him to understand the impact this is having on my health. What steps can I take to protect myself and have an open, productive conversation with him about this without resorting to constant nagging?

Sincerely,

A Worried Wife

Expert Advice on Dealing with Secondhand Smoke

Secondhand smoke is a serious health hazard, and it’s understandable that you’re concerned. Here's some advice on how to navigate this delicate situation:

1. Educate Yourself and Him: Research the specific health risks associated with secondhand smoke exposure. Sharing this information with your husband, in a non-accusatory way, might help him understand the gravity of the situation.
2. Focus on 'I' Statements: Instead of saying