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Let's be honest, it's easy to fall into the trap. Dinner becomes a backdrop to scrolling through social media, catching up on emails, or playing games. While it might seem like a harmless way to fill the time, it subtly erodes the opportunity for meaningful conversation and connection. Our family was guilty of this. Mealtimes were often silent, punctuated only by the tapping of thumbs on screens and the occasional request for more food.

Inspired by PM Wong’s remarks and a desire to reclaim our mealtimes, we announced a two-week ban on all screens – phones, tablets, and even the TV – during dinner. The initial reaction was, predictably, resistance. My children, accustomed to the distraction, questioned the logic and expressed boredom. We held firm, explaining that we wanted to spend quality time together and really talk.

The first few days were the hardest. There was a palpable awkwardness. Silence hung heavy in the air, and the urge to reach for a phone was strong. However, we consciously made an effort to initiate conversations. We started with simple questions about their day, then delved into more open-ended topics like their favourite books, their friends, and their hopes for the future. We also shared more about our own day – the good, the bad, and the funny.

By the second week, something remarkable happened. The awkwardness dissipated, and genuine conversation began to flow. We discovered new interests and perspectives within our family. We laughed more, debated more, and simply listened more intently. Meal times became a space for connection, for sharing, and for building stronger relationships.

Beyond just improved conversation, the screen ban yielded some unexpected benefits. We noticed a decrease in arguments and a greater sense of calm during mealtimes. The children seemed more present and engaged, and we, as parents, felt more connected to them. It also subtly encouraged more mindful eating; without the distraction of screens, we were more aware of what we were consuming and how we were feeling.

While a complete, permanent ban might be unrealistic in our modern world, the experiment has convinced us of the immense value of screen-free mealtimes. We're now aiming for a hybrid approach – designating certain nights as screen-free and being more mindful of screen usage during other meals. It’s a work in progress, but the positive impact on our family dynamics has been undeniable.

PM Wong’s message resonated for a reason. In today's digital age, it's crucial for Irish families to be intentional about creating spaces for connection and conversation. Even small changes, like a screen-free dinner, can make a big difference. Let's prioritise quality time and reclaim our mealtimes as opportunities to nurture our relationships and build stronger families.